Dealing with Emotions as the Heat Rises
Everyone experiences negative emotions. Although you are aware of these “bad” feelings, you may still unknowingly react according to them and continue to hold onto them. This is why it’s essential to know how you can shift your emotional state and change it intentionally.
The Tao principle teaches that happiness is a choice. Your environment and unique circumstances are not there to control you or take charge of your life, but they’re there to help you find out more about yourself. In the end, through increased awareness about yourself, you will be able to choose your actions intentionally and eventually shift those difficult circumstances into what you truly wish for yourself and others.
If you are not fully aware of yourself, you will always be at the mercy of life challenges. You may face constant struggles as you find yourself reacting based on those feelings evoked by problems that are happening now or have occurred in the past.
You may have heard of the law of attraction, which beliefs are in the power that brings thoughts into manifestation. The whole universe works based on this. And because the negative emotions have accumulated inside you, you’ll duplicate those emotions and display them wherever you go. If you are focused on negative energy or emotions, you’ll attract similar situations and people into your life; this is called negative unconscious creation, described as the rumination of thoughts you don’t necessarily want to think about.
But if you become more mindful of the thoughts that you’re creating, only then will you begin to shift your energy and reaction toward your environment.
5 Steps to Turning Your Negatives Emotions to Positive Ones
There are simple ways that you can remember when you’re feeling a negative emotion. These are five powers that will help you focus and shift negative feelings into love, compassion, and healing.
Power of Truthfulness or Vulnerability
This means being true to yourself. Sometimes when you feel weak, you may put up a wall or an armor to protect your emotions. With the power of truthfulness or vulnerability, you will allow yourself to feel deeply while being honest to yourself. You might find yourself thinking, “Oh, I don’t want to do that because when I do, I become out of control. I’m scared to be out of control. I cannot focus on where I am heading to if I think about that again.”
But if you cannot be honest with yourself, you won’t heal. If you shield your feelings with armor, you become desensitized, become numb to your own feelings, and ultimately become unauthentic to yourself. So, allow yourself to experience what that moment dictates. No matter what kind of emotion that is, it is the truth. You cannot convince yourself otherwise.
Being honest with that feeling and letting yourself shed a tear is okay. This step is crucial. Recall the situation that hurt and impacted your life, so it no longer triggers you in the future.
Power of Detachment
Detachment doesn’t mean disconnecting from yourself. Unfortunately, many people do the latter where they withdraw themselves from their feelings and then get lost. But the truth is that no matter what you do, you’ll always be connected to yourself.
The power of truthfulness tells you not to stop yourself from feeling, and the next step, which is the power of detachment, tells you to step out from your emotions. To do this, you can say something like this: Instead of “I am angry,” you can say, “I have anger.” The former means you are full of rage and are out of control.
Just imagine you’re in the backseat of someone who had road rage. They’re driving outrageously and possibly even have an accident.
If you say, “I have anger,” that means you’re only feeling the emotion, but you are not anger itself. Instead, you know that anger is somewhere in your being but you’re not suppressing it. This way, you become the driver of your emotions – this is awareness.
Awareness is the other passenger who’s observing you and the angry driver. Being able to step out of the situation is the power of detachment, and allowing yourself to feel the anger is the power of honesty.
Power of Observation
The power of observation allows you to observe yourself from an outsider’s point of view. When you step out of the situation, the emotion can no longer control you, and you can now see what’s going on inside you.
At this moment, you must observe how your body is feeling. Emotions impact your body by manifesting in the form of discomfort or pain. However, they’re not necessarily a bad thing because they are a guide. For instance, discomfort guides you into knowing what’s happening inside; it allows you to uncover what you’re holding onto.
So, take a moment to observe yourself with closed eyes and see what is happening inside your body. For example, you may feel tightness in your chest, shortness of breath, or different feelings only you can recognize.
You can also ask yourself, “What is it that I’m holding onto?” You may have stories you convince yourself to be the truth. Ask yourself, “What type of story am I telling myself about this emotion I’m experiencing?”
Then after that, communicate with your negative emotions and say, “What do you need?” The power of observation is the only way for you to figure out the things you’ve been holding onto for the longest time.
Power of Divine Energy
In Tao practice, we call the power of divine energy different names: life particles, cosmic energy, particles of the universe, and bright light energy. You can invite that radiant energy existing all around you to heal that part of your being that needs healing.
You want to take care and heal yourself first using the cosmic energy because it’s free, and it’s everywhere; you only need to pay attention to it.
When you do this step, use your hands to feel the universe’s vibration. Then, send that vibration to the part of your body where the stories you tell yourself exist.
Power of Understanding
When you can finally feel the cosmos’ love entering your system, you can tell this to yourself, “At the time, it felt like this person hurt me. But did I realize that they could have been going through something too?”
During this step, you can consider being compassionate towards the person who hurt you and giving them the benefit of the doubt. “What kind of information did I believe in at the time? Is it really the whole truth and only truth?” At this point, you may begin to see that perhaps, there are many different ways of seeing the situation.
With the love you’re receiving from the universe, you may begin to see what truly happened between you and the person who hurt you. This change of mind will transform your emotions, yourself, and ultimately, your relationship with that individual.
Indeed, there are many different ways to heal, and there’s more profound healing that you can do for you to move on from the past. But these steps are fundamental steps that you can apply in your daily life to help you shift your awareness and finally come out from the emotional state that you have been stuck in for too long.
Guided Meditation by Ilchibuko
When you’re drowning in negative emotions, embrace yourself with love and transform that energy into love and healing. And for any problematic situation, first, you want to extend love for yourself. Because if you cannot connect to yourself, you can not connect to other people. When you’re detached from yourself, you’ll experience a lot of suffering and pain. You’ll still feel empty, even if you know somebody loves you.
You want to be honest with yourself. Detach yourself from the negative feeling itself, and acknowledge that you have needs. Embrace your needs with the universe’s energy. And make sure that you share with other people the love and healing that you receive from the cosmos.